Ever slept with a man too soon and had it ruin where things were going?

While it’s important to not get too “physical” too soon… it’s not always the way a man acts afterwards that changes things.

If you’re like lots of women, then it’s often by accident that YOUR OWN FEELINGS quickly change and become more “serious” and intense. And for lots of men, this confuses them when it happens early on before they really know you well.

Don’t let this easily avoidable “trap” bring a premature end to what could be a great relationship.

“I got an email a while back from a woman who had a great question.I wanted to share it with you. If you’re in a place where you’d like to turn around a “troubled” relationship with a man…

Or you’ve made some mistakes that have changed the way you and a man are with each other and you’re not sure what to do next, then you need to keep reading”

– From A Reader

How do you forgive yourself for blowing a relationship when you realize you slept with a guy too soon and he lost all respect for you?

“After reading your book, I realized that’s why a relationship that had started out so well was now falling apart. I’m having a hard time forgiving myself because I know I may have ruined a good thing through my own stupidity. Please help me put this in perspective so I stop thinking that I ruined something that otherwise may have lasted a lifetime.

-D.G.

**My Response**

OK, slow down.

You’re beating yourself up here, and it’s not helping.

In fact, I’m sure it’s completely working against you right now the way you’re worrying about what you’ve done wrong.

While you’re taking the credit and the blame for everything here… you’re only contributing to your own suffering and making things worse for yourself.

So let me say this in a loving way-

CUT IT OUT!

Here’s the first thing you need to learn and understand…

You’ll never get things back to “the way they were”.

EVER.

And believe it or not, that’s a GOOD THING.

It’s time to let go of the past and start focusing on creating what’s going on and can be done in a positive light in THE PRESENT.

I’ll share a little secret with you that has the power to change your life and give you the kind of satisfaction and transformation you’re looking for.

It’s time to for you to start recognizing and ACCEPTING the beauty of things THE WAY THEY ARE.

And it’s time for you to STOP anxiously worrying and stressing out over how things have been in the past.

You can learn lessons from the past, but you can’t change it.

That’s why, on a deeper level…

The sooner you can let go of the part of you that wants to CONTROL what has happened and how things have unfolded… then the sooner you’re going to be able to let go and start changing things for the better in THE PRESENT.

So…

Did you sleep with the man you were seeing too soon and change the dynamic of your relationship early on?

Maybe. But that’s in the past.

You can’t change things back to the way they were.

But you CAN make things EVEN BETTER and different than they were before… if you’re willing to let go of your fear and anxiety and get to the place where you start DOING WHAT WORKS with a man.

Hint – what works with a man is NOT trying to TALK TO HIM about all the things that have happened in the past.

Still, knowing this, too many women call the man they’re dating or see him in person and can’t help but fall right into the trap of letting their uncertainty and anxiety do the talking.

And they want to discuss and share all the thoughts they have been having about what’s wrong, what’s not working… and why he isn’t acting a certain way.

With fear, insecurity, or anxiety in their voice… this usually sounds like-

“I need to talk to you…”, and then they go on to spill everything they’ve been thinking and feeling and overwhelm the guy.

Or they say… “Something is bothering me”, and they explain how they feel hurt. But then the man, instead of sympathizing, feels like he’s being CRITICIZED, and he pulls away.

Or there’s the famous “Why didn’t you call me?” question.

There’s really no good answer, and no good conversation that can come from this if you’re a woman looking to RECONNECT with a man.

In fact, all these things above that women do practically GUARANTEE that a man is going to feel awkward around you and that the conversation is going to go NOWHERE.

Don’t do it!

Do what works.

And what works is CONNECTING with a man in the PRESENT MOMENT when you’re together.

So along those lines, here’s another secret for you…

If you learn to make a man feel that magical FEELING called ATTRACTION when you’re with him and “in the moment”… then there’s NOTHING that will keep him from wanting to see you and be with you.

Including getting physical too soon.

But if you DON’T make a man feel attraction and keep it going, then almost nothing else will matter.

If you don’t know how to make a man feel attraction… or you waste your time around him trying to rehash the past or talk about what was wrong in the past so you can “fix” things… then there’s no way you’re ever going to be able to CONVINCE him to want to see you or be with you.

In other words, it’s NOT THE WORDS and the conversations that you have with a man that aregoing to “rekindle” that spark between you andget his attention and interest.

It’s what you make him FEEL when he’s with you that matters most.

Of course, once you know the right things tosay and do with a man to make him feel andexperience that intense level of attraction with you… everything else becomes incrediblyeasy.

Luckily, you already have an amazing guide in front of you my eBook and all you need to do is put it to use.

And once you have it in front of you…

Go to page 99 in the book and start reading at the section called “Keep It Simple”.

It’s going to make your life a whole lot easier and… well… simple.

Plus, you’ll also remember that for a man,being physical and intimate can often have NOTHING TO DO with him wanting a relationshipin the first place.

Which means… you could be spending all thistime and energy thinking he’s “changed his mind” after sleeping with you, when he never even got to the place in his mind where he was ready or
interested in a relationship with you in the first place.

In other words, stop trying to “fix” thepast by figuring him and the situation out.

Get out of your head.

And start doing what works by creating thekind of attraction that goes much deeper thanjust Physical Attraction.

Right now you are worrying too much aboutWHAT HE IS DOING AND THINKING… instead ofgetting your own act together and simply beingthe kind of woman who feels good about herself and who a man would want to be with and feel great when he’s around.

Go back over the 13 Personality Traits, I show you in my book, that naturally attract men. I list them all and explain them in detail starting on page 107

Once you start doing the right things, and stop worrying about the past and all the things that have gone WRONG… you’ll be amazed at how quickly things can change.

When a man experiences ATTRACTION for a woman,everything can change in an instant.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter