Do you know what it is that makes a man fall in love with a woman?

And I mean really and truly fall in love and want to stay with her for good?

I’m asking because I’ve got something important to share with you.

Tell me something honestly…

Do you feel like you’re really and truly ready for love with a man?

If you’re like many women I’ve met and talked with, then your answer is yes, you are ready.

You’re ready to finally give yourself to a man who can share and appreciate all the amazing gifts you have to give.

You’re ready for a man to give himself to you in a way that will commit his mind, body, and heart to you and your relationship.

You’re ready for a man to finally “get” you and respect your feelings and emotions, instead of trying to fix or solve them.

You look forward to being able to have a man you can truly depend on who will be there and support you no matter what.

And you picture how it’s going to be when you can finally open up and heal the pain of your past breakups… knowing that you’re in a safe and secure place now.

Ahh… so you must be ready, right?

Wrong.

The truth is, if you followed all of what I said and this is how you think you’re ready… then you’re actually NOT READY.

I’ll explain.

If you followed me through all of this, and felt like I was talking to YOU, and about YOUR life… then the reality is that the things that you’re probably doing in your love life are more than likely taking you FARTHER AWAY from the LOVE that you want.

That’s right.

If you believe you’re ready because you know and feel and these things… then it’s time you see that you’re doing the EXACT things that are going to push away the man you’re with and keep you both from ever getting close enough to experiencing true love.

Sure, all these things above might be true in your mind, and how a relationship SHOULD WORK.

But these ARE NOT the things that you need to know for yourself if you want true love and a lasting relationship with a man to ACTUALLY WORK.

Here’s the thing…

I don’t know if you’ve ever really asked a man about HIS ideal relationship, but you might want to try.

Because you’re going to get a VERY different kind of response than the things I talked about above.

Very different.

In other words, women and men have different ideas of what a relationship is, and how love really works.

Hmmmm… (this is where you should be putting your thinking cap on, by the way)

So does that make men and women just plain different and INCOMPATIBLE?

Is true love just a myth?

Obviously not. There are TONS of happy couples out there who share real and lasting love.

So how do they do it?

How do other WOMEN do it?

Well, the difference is, both partners in these relationships were really and truly “ready” not just for love themselves, but for how love will work with THE OTHER PERSON.

In your case, that would mean that you would need to be both ready to deal with how love is going to affect you as a woman… AND be ready to deal with how A MAN is going to act and affect you mentally and emotionally.

Are you going to get overwhelmed, angry, sad, and frustrated with a man when things aren’t “perfect”?

Or are you going to have the wisdom, confidence and knowledge to stay in control and share your feelings in the way a true lover would?

Here’s the thing.

If you don’t have “your act together” when you’re with a man… and you’re not conscious of how your own fears and insecurities can cause you to act.

Then you’re probably going to STAY STUCK repeating patterns and dead-end relationships that drain you and lead you from one bad relationship to another.

Why?

Because any time things make you feel uncertain or fearful… you’re going to ruin your own chances by letting your negative or fearful emotions take over.

And the man you’re with is going to SEE this and get that bad feeling inside his stomach that makes him want to pull away from you for good.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen this happen to good women.

You have the best of intentions…

You want true and lasting love more than anything in the world….

You think you know how a relationship should work…

And you get into relationship after relationship with men, hoping that this time it will be different and that he won’t be like the others.

Unfortunately, things don’t seem to work out in the end for 98% of these women.

Why?

The short answer is because 98% of men don’t fit these women’s picture of how a real and secure relationship is supposed to work.

Of course, this picture is just an ideal, and not how things work with a real man.

And it’s the gap between these women’s ideals and reality that causes the conflict, uncertainty, frustration, and fear that ends up tearing their own relationships apart.

Of course, the other 2% of women actually DO end up having that great guy show up who figures out how to make things work for them, because he “gets it” on such a deep level that he can hold things together and work through everything that comes up in their relationship.

Raise your hand if you want to wait around to be one of the few and “lucky” 2%?

If you’re raising your hand, then you can stop reading right now.

But if you’re not waiting around for luck, and you want to TAKE BACK CONTROL of your love life and guide yourself to somewhere better, then you CAN, right now.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter