- Attracting Men
- Keeping Men Around
- Understanding Men
- Common Dating Problems
- Christian CarterChristian Carter at a Seminar Christian Carter is the author of the best-selling book Catch Him and Keep Him. Christian Carter, is a leading advisor to women on the subjects of dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Christian Carter’s theories of “Emotional Attraction”, “The Danger of a Connection”, and “The Relationship Balance” teach women how to create truly lasting attraction with a man and show them how to move effortlessly into a deeper, open, and more loving relationship all the while avoiding resistance, withdrawal or rejection. Christian Carter’s book, live seminars, and audio/video programs have helped thousands of women create amazing love-lives, overcome their fears and negative beliefs, and become more fulfilled in their relationships with men. (and all their relationships). Christian Carter Video Receive Christian Carter’s exclusive free dating advice email newsletter, at his website. After years of research into the dating habits of men, he decided to write a reference guide for women who are looking for understanding and power in her dating and relationships. Christian Carter eliminates the confusion that the majority of women feel when they continue in their dating lifestyle. Whether it’s a long-term relationship, or some fun, Christian Carter helps break down the simple truths that elude most women when it comes to the mind of the quality man. Christian Carter said this about his eBook “Catch Him and Keep Him”: “I’ve spent the better part of the last year making sure the entire book, from cover to cover, is the genuine article. The “real deal”. And it’s important to me that you get a ton of value if you invest the time and read it. You won’t be disappointed. My eBook “Catch Him & Keep Him” covers all the most important concepts, ideas, and strategies for women who want to meet and attract a great guy, and then set the foundation for building an amazing, lasting long-term relationship… And do it without coming up against all those frustrating and heart-wrenching problems and obstacles to true love that lots of women end up dealing with and sometime never escape from. So the books a kind of “cheat sheet” to the male psychology and inside the mind of a man. A step-by-step guide to attracting a man and communicating in a way that will lead him from feeling casual to committed in no-time flat. It represents several years of reading, observation, research, interviews and study all distilled into a truly usable reference manual to dating, romance and relationships with real men.” Receive Christian Carter’s exclusive free dating advice email newsletter, at his website.
- Catch Him And Keep HimCatch Him and Keep Him is guru Christian Carter‘s first book for women to improve their dating and relationships. Catch Him and Keep Him delves into the male mind and how it reacts when it’s involved with the dating world. It’s an inside look into how men think, from the perspective of a guy who’s been there – and done that. I find the masculinity of the book refreshing. This isn’t written by a counselor or a gay guy friend of yours: Christian Carter is very much in touch with his masculinity, and he doesn’t pull punches. He tells you what guys are really thinking and doing: the bare bald facts that most of us women don’t want to hear. In our hearts, I think many of us wish that men could be more like women. We wish that men could enjoy talking about their feelings more, could give up their addictions to gadgets and start getting hooked on having a family, kids, and even enjoy shopping with us more than just at Christmas time. According to Christian Carter, that sort of thinking has to stop. Men live in a different reality, and it is our job as women to understand where men are coming from without judgement. You can learn how to recognize a Player and the motives that drive them to play with hearts. Find yourself challenged to consider why you’re attracted to strong, dominant unavailable men and “players” … exactly the sort of men who will NOT make for a good relationship. One of Christian Carters’s central themes is the importance of understanding your emotional responses and acting on them appropriately. Christian challenges women to look at how flimsy their intuitive sense of a “connection” with a man really is: while the woman is sure he’s “The One” and planning their wedding invitations after the first date, he’s just thinking what a great gal she is and how great the sex will be. Christian injects a note of reality: “You’d be crazy to take the close relationship and love you want to find and gamble it away by betting on a guy whose greatest qualification is that he makes you feel attracted to him.” (p.33) Christian challenges you to be realistic about your expectations and assess your “emotional fitness.” Do you take responsibility for your life, or do you play the victim? Are you a “cool girl” or a “hysterical woman”? His list of Cool Girl Do’s and Dont’s hit home for many women. He’s right on the money about the kind of girl guys think is a great catch. The question remains: should you buy Christian Carter’s Catch Him and Keep Him book? I believe so. This book is a great start into understanding what really goes on inside a man’s mind and more importantly, how you can use that information to find a great guy! Click here to download Christian Carter’s book Catch Him And Keep Him.
How To Get An Unavailable Man To Open Up
Are you looking to experience more love, happiness and fulfillment in your love life?
Does there seem to be “something missing” from the way you and a man interact that’s either keeping you from connecting on a deeper personal and emotional level…
Or is he being RESISTANT when it comes to getting closer with you?
Then you’ve got to read the real-life story about a woman’s failures, growth, and successes with the “unavailable” man in her life.
She shares how she went from feeling frustrated and confused to learning how to feel empowered and confident… and describes exactly how she made this change.
You can use the ideas and techniques that she shares NOW to improve your love life.
First, let me ask you…
What if you could find just one good real-world idea that brought you close to that great guy that for some reason seems “unavailable” or withdraws from you?
Or what if you found a great way to turn your situation around and get back to that amazing love-filled connection you used to have when you were first together?
How is that going to happen for you?
Well, there’s a few ways in this email for you.
If you read this reader’s email, you’re likely to recognize and identify with what this woman has gone through with men in the past… and what she is dealing with right now.
And hearing about her experiences dealing with men and relationships straight “from the horse’s mouth” can help you to put the things she’s used to improve her love life to use in your own.
You’re also likely to simply FEEL BETTER about where things are for you after you read what’s going on for this woman.
PLUS, I’ll share what I see as the “deeper” psychological process behind her increased success, her new feeling of well being and her new attitude of confidence and empowerment.
So enough of my blabbering, let’s check her email out.
Dear Christian,
Well it’s about time somebody coughed up the secrets of the mind of man…LOL
I can’t tell you what a pleasure, and with great amusement, it was to read your ebook. I have been trying to ferret out for years why I get into the same situations with males I am attracted to and attract. Let me tell you it has been no easy task to make these kinds of discoveries.
I went from being entirely dismayed and at the point of giving up, thinking I was too complex for any male to understand, to the excited extreme “Aha!” zone where now I get things that are happening.
Being the dominant Aries woman with a perpetual desire for the chase, I thought men to be lame and overly freaked out by my presence and too frightened to do anything about it… they watch from afar but never approach. Begging internally for a man who could keep up, I couldn’t figure it out and was on an endless path of what does that mean, why did they do that, etc.
So this little goldmine of yours has put much straight for me, and has my head spinning with ideas.
I’ve come from the space of hating the whole dating game place to understanding that it’s not foo-foo games but rather intelligent strategy combined with proper pacing and non attachment empowered by my choices.
I recently started dating this man who after several dates suggested I find a book on rules..he was very tongue in cheek about it telling me I was way too easy and I could be taken advantage of (nice girl syndrome) – you should know I am 43 years old was married for 20 years and after 5 years of being divorced entirely clueless on how to proceed. anyway… he at first mentioned he liked having me on his priority list. But 5 days later he brought up “the talk” because he was wondering if he should have one basket or several. (women) And 3 days after that he stated he was into monogamy, but not with me in this case. This blew me away entirely. But he still called each day! He left me wondering what had taken place with us that would make him suddenly stick me into the lover category and not a long term one. (i.e. verbatim he said, “We can have lots of great sex and massages, you just don’t get papers on me.”)
I then did a search online and found your book. I immediately put into play what I read – with instant changes on his end I might add.
Now I see that what he’s done and said has been to help him stay emotionally protected, and that he sees me just as a “lover” like you talked about.
Now the fun for me here is to implement these things and see if it changes his perspective or not. In the meantime, I’m open to practicing on others I’m interested in until I get this right!
Thank you!!
D.B.
You go girl!
OK, back to the matter at hand.
There are so many AWESOME things going on in this email that I want to talk about, and that I know are going to start happening for this woman in the near future…
One of the most important things here is what I think of as your “mindset”.
I know it sounds a little silly and “new agey”, but the truth is that your attitude or mindset can help you naturally become more successful with experiencing connection, fulfillment, and building something that’s meaningful and lasting with a man… WITHOUT having to do more “work” just to get there.
If you haven’t recognized it in the people and the world around you yet, ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING.
This woman who wrote to me and the transformation she’s going through touches on this idea and how it works…
But she didn’t share a lot about how she got to this new place she’s in, what the process is like, and what she’s specifically doing differently now.
In other words, the “How-To’s” and the techniques.
That’s where I want to fill in some gaps for you right now…
The Fatal Mistake Of Handing Over The Responsibility of Creating Your Perfect Love Life To A Clueless Man…
I’m going to get “geeky” with you for a second.
I’ve realized something important recently.
After spending tons of time thinking about how men and women experience love and relationships differently, and reading hundreds of books and articles on how the human mind works and our “inner-psychology”, I’ve come across something fascinating.
Each of us has a system of beliefs or “maps” of the world that we use to organize our experience and make meaning out of what happens around us.
I believe that lots of women have a unique set of these beliefs that I call their “Emotional Love Map”.
It’s really just a fancy name for the pictures and expectations in your mind that create the beliefs about how your love life and relationship should look and FEEL.
Here’s where it gets really interesting…
Men and their natural or default “emotional states” can quickly make women feel frustrated and hopeless about finding true and lasting love in their life.
Why?
Because a lot of the behavior, communication and beliefs that men have don’t match up with the “Emotional Love Map” of the woman that they’re with.
Seeing this has helped me see something I never understood before as a man.
There’s something I know tons of women are probably dying to scream out from inside.
If I were them, I’d want to stand on the tallest mountain and yell it out.
That’s probably why I hear it from tons of women I meet and talk to.
I heard it again just 4 nights ago when I was out to dinner at a great restaurant here in Los Angeles and I struck up a conversation with a woman at the bar as I was waiting for my friend.
It goes something like this…
“I’m tired of doing all the work! Shouldn’t the man take responsibility for his issues and fix them himself? We women are doing all the heavy lifting since we’re the ones who are emotionally together.”
Let’s get the logical answer to this out of the way so we can move on to things that actually matter and will actually do real things to improve your love life.
YES.
Men SHOULD take responsibility, learn and grow like most women do.
But if you’re reading this, then odds are that the men in your life haven’t, don’t, and have no immediate plans to get it together anytime soon.
Our strong Aries reader who wrote in really “gets” this concept now and it’s doing all kinds of great things for her attitude, her feelings, and the results she’s getting with the unavailable guy in her life.
But she probably wouldn’t be open to learning and trying new things she’s learning and observing if she hadn’t had the “psychological shift” of taking responsibility for her own love life.
And best of luck in life and love!
Your Friend,
Christian Carter is a leading advisor to women on dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Visit Christian's official website, by clicking here.
